Dear Jacquelyn,

I am planning my wedding and I have a question about providing meals for my vendors. I am not sure if it is something I need to do. I am paying a lot of money for the vendors to work that day. Am I also responsible for paying for a meal for them?

Dear Reader,

Budgeting is not the most pleasant part of wedding planning, but is a factor you have to contend with.

Keeping a cushion for unexpected costs would be wise. For things to run smoothly on your big day, paying attention to every detail is crucial.

As you are finding out, planning a wedding comes with many unexpected questions and challenges. The good news is there are solutions to the questions that will come up.

The photographer, entertainment and officiant are part of the wedding team who will be with you most of your day and should be treated with the courtesy of a meal.

In addition to being courteous, providing meals can prevent a vendor from slipping out to go buy a snack. The good news is: look over your contract. Some vendors will include the cost of their meal in the price.

There are some exceptions to the rule. The florist and baker are normally out of the picture before the ceremony begins, so they do not have to be provided a meal.

If you hired a hairstylist and makeup team that will be with you for four hours or more, it would be nice to have snacks and bottled water available.

The goal is to ensure everyone involved is happy and comfortable, including the entourage that is making your day special.

Respectfully Yours,

Jacquelyn

Have a question? Email: jacquelyn@ptd.net. Jacquelyn Youst is owner of the Pennsylvania Academy of Protocol, specializing in etiquette training.

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