Daughter's recovery was spiritual experience
When21-year-old Holly Daubenspeck was in a coma for three months, her mother, Pat, asked God for a sign.
Not knowing about Pat's request of God, her friend, Cheri Voth, called and told her hundreds of dragonflies were swarming around the Daubenspecks' Moore Township home.
"Dragonflies have been very special to Holly," said Pat.
"I started to cry," she continued. "Then I got another phone call. Cheri said another person at the same time went out on the playground at George Wolf [Elementary School in Bath] and there was another swarm."
At the time, Pat was not home to see the dragonflies. She and her husband, Ron, had been living at Geisinger Medical Center in Danville, where Holly was taken after a serious car accident Sept. 6, 2011.
Initially, Holly had not been expected to live. Then, doctors predicted she would remain in a permanent vegetative state.
Today, however, Holly is looking forward to teaching private music lessons this fall. Except for issues with speech and short-term memory and some nerve damage in her left hand, Holly has made a full recovery.
"This whole thing, this whole journey has been just unbelievably spiritual," said Pat.
The night of the accident, the Daubenspecks got a call from the chaplain at Geisinger, Pat said.
"Basically ... he told us our daughter had been in the accident and we needed to go there," said Pat.
With just an overnight bag, the Daubenspecks made the three-hour trip to Danville, where they remained for six weeks.
"I should probably tell you I still cry daily," said Pat. "Sometimes happy tears, sometimes, 'oh, my god,' remembering tears."
Pat remembers being in the hospital lobby late one night when she heard the song "I Hope You Dance" by Lee Ann Womack, which had special meaning to Holly
"I had been screaming at God, 'Please, just give me a sign,' and the Lee Ann Womack song just started playing in the lobby. There was no radio. There was nothing. It was dark. It was deserted," she said.
"I knew right away God was with me and I knew, more importantly, that God was with Holly and more importantly he was holding her safe and I knew it was going to be OK."
During the first six weeks after the accident, the Daubenspecks struggled with advice given to them by medical professionals.
"They were telling me that Holly was not ever going to walk and she was not going to speak and we were going to have to send her to a long-term care facility and we should start looking," said Pat.
Apparently, Holly did not like this news either. Although Holly was still in a coma, she picked up her hand and made sharp saluting motions when the subject came up in conversation.
Still, the Daubenspecks believed they had to face the possibility Holly would never come home.
"That was one of the hardest things Ron and I had to do," Pat said.
After six weeks in the Danville hospital, Holly was transferred to Moss Rehabilitation outside Philadelphia. At that time, Ron went back to his job as a CPA but daughter Alyce took a year off from her studies at Ithaca College to live with her mother and sister.
In January 2012, when Holly was ready for discharge from Moss, the Daubenspecks were told she could not go home because their house was carpeted and would not accomodate the wheelchair Holly needed.
"Holly's college professors and college friends took care of us completely," Pat said.
In addition to bringing meals and clothing to the hospital for them, the college community raised enough money to replace the carpet with hardwood floors so Holly could come home, Pat said.
"If we hadn't had that [new floor], she would have had to go to the nursing home anyway," said Pat.
Berger Sanitation – which, incidentally, is not the Daubenspecks' hauler – sent out a newsletter to all its clients telling them about Holly.
Pat said the owners of the firm attend their church, Emmanuels Lutheran in Moore Township, but they don't really know each other.
As a result of the newsletter article, Cathy and Tom Dennis of Slatington are renovating the downstairs of the Daubenspecks' bilevel home into an apartment for Holly, complete with a bathroom, kitchen, bedroom, living area and music studio.
"They are building it and they are providing all the materials," said Pat. The project, now underway, requires moving walls along with extensive electrical and plumbing work.
Pat said many others, too numerous to name, have also supported Holly and her family.
"I'm still in awe with how good people have been," Pat said.